Who are Dr Carolyn Daitch and Lissah Lorberbaum and why should I care?

Dr. Carolyn Daitch is a psychologist, director, consultant and author specializing in anxiety disorders, stress and emotional management. She has more than 25 years experience in private practice in Michigan, USA.

Dr. Daitch wrote The Road to Calm Workbook with co-author Lissah Lorberbam in 2016 to help readers take control of runaway emotions by incorporating her training and understanding of hypnotherapy with evidence-based psychotherapy.

In their book, The Road to Calm Workbook, Dr. Daitch and Lissah Lorberbaum provide a clear explanation of how and why we may become overwhelmed by our emotions and offer simple, effective strategies to overcome what they describe as emotional flooding, decrease stress to prevent emotional flooding, and manage emotional reactions due to a wide range of possible scenarios.

What is The Road to Calm Workbook about and why should I read it?

The Road to Calm Workbook focuses on teaching us how to manage runaway emotions in simple, practical and effective ways. It offers a set of practical and effective tools that empower readers to manage a variety of emotional triggers in their lives.

Each chapter features educational information and tools to support emotional regulation. Part one features a detailed explanation of emotional flooding and how it can negatively impact relationships. Part two features tools to support self-regulation, as well as strategies to implement today to ease stress and stop emotional overwhelm in its tracks.

Additionally, Dr. Daitch and Ms. Lorberbaum offer a table of when each of the 12 tools can be used, as well as how to identify triggers and take stock of your stressors.

Does Dr. Daitch have any other books?

Yes! Dr. Daitch has authored four books including, The Road to Calm Workbook, Anxious in Love, Anxiety Disorders: The Go-To Guide For Clients and Therapists, and Affect Regulation Tool Box. For more information on her many projects visit:

How often do you justify yourself on a given day? I imagine if you give it some thought you'll find it's quite often.

Think about it.

A friend you don't particularly like asks you to go for coffee and you say, I'd love to but I can't because ...

...the kids have a birthday party and my husbands away on business and my car broke down last week and.....

Why do we do that?

When we justify ourselves and the decisions we make we inevitably feel a sense of guilt and shame for our decisions. We justify, or give excuses, not for the other person, but to ease our own discomfort.

The cashier at the store asks you to donate to this weeks charity and you say, "No, I donated the other day when I was here" or she tries to upsell you on the deal of the week and you say, "Not today because .... I already have 10 of them at home, thanks."

What would it be like to simply say, "No thank you"?

I can tell you, at least at first, it is incredibly difficult and uncomfortable for most people. In fact, I often challenge clients to try stopping at "no, thank you" the next time they are asked to do something that they don't want to or can't do for any reason.

It's a simple, yet strangely empowering exercise for many with a fear of judgement and often leads to increases in confidence in other areas of their lives.

Imagine how freeing it would be to stop justifying yourself. To simply say, No and walk away.

Now, I'm not suggesting you forget your manners. There are situations where you may want to provide another option; one that is more suitable to your life and family.

For example, the next time your mother asks you to come for Sunday dinner on a night that you already have 2 birthday parties, swimming lessons and a soccer tournament, you say, "This weekend won't work for us. How about we plan for next Sunday" or "Sundays dinners won't work for us. You are welcome to come to the soccer tournament if you'd like"

Taking control of your life without justification is empowering and will help you live a life that is your own.

Give it a try and share your experience with us below in the comments.

Over the past few months anxiety related to COVID-19 has been spreading throughout the world. For people living with health anxiety, in particular, times like this can be particularly difficult. It's important to know that anxiety is a natural response to a perceived threat and situations such this will naturally lead to an increase in anxiety.

It is during times like this that it becomes difficult to distinguish between anxiety that is helpful (such as anxiety that alerts you to the need to get out of a burning building quickly) and anxiety that is debilitating (such as anxiety that keeps you from being productive or doing the things you want to do unnecessarily).

Recently we have seen an increase in safety behaviors among people who otherwise would not be considered anxious people. This is because, as human beings, we are influenced by the behaviors of others and can find ourselves acting in ways that are largely out of character when anxiety around us is elevated.

It is important that you know that if you are feeling an increase in anxiety it is okay. It is natural and understandable in times of uncertainty and when your safety and security feels threatened. The best thing you can do is be kind to yourself and understand that you are doing the best you can to manage the uncertainty that surrounds you.

Because we know that when the emotion center in the brain is highly aroused it can be difficult to think about the things that can help ease anxiety and return your mind and body to a calmer state, here are a few suggestions to get you started.

Take some time to reflect on things that have helped you get through tough times in the past and reach out if you find yourself in need of some extra support.

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