Divorce is not something that couples plan for and yet it should be. Although no one enters into a marriage with the plan of getting divorced, once the decision to end your marriage is made planning for what happens next can make a huge difference.
Recently Mayim Bialik, who plays Dr. Amy Farrah Fowler on the Big Bang Theory, opened up about her own divorce in an inspiring video (which you can watch here) about how to have a positive relationship with one's ex and keep the family healthy and happy after divorce.
When there are children involved, getting a divorce is not the end of the relationship. Although no longer a couple, you are still parents and your family, although different, can and should remain intact. And even when there aren't kids involved, you deserve to end your marriage in the most positive way you can.
Planning for divorce means taking your time considering key issues such as co-parenting, finances, living arrangements and custody of children and pets. Many couples rush into divorce because they are angry, bitter and resentful and in some cases these emotions come from years of infidelity, abuse, or mental health and addiction issues.
Learning effective emotional regulation and how to let go of any anger and sadness is an important determinant of how your divorce will play out. If you need help processing the emotions you are feeling toward your ex-partner or the concept of divorce as a whole, contact me to set up your free initial consultation to see if online counselling can help you do that.
For more information on how to "live happily, after divorce", read Wendy Paris's book Splitopia: Dispatches from Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well.